Tell Me Whom You Envy and I’ll Tell You Who You Are

“I can’t decide what to do with my life; I don’t know what excites me.”

I hear this quite often and I say: “Find out whom you envy.”

Years ago, when I thought I was at a dead-end in my career, I observed the people I envied. They were the ones who had time for deep thinking, whose phones rang infrequently, who could work in peace. These inferences showed me that I had to stay away from dynamic workplaces where fast communication is key and crisis management is unavoidable. 

Undoubtedly, we all have this feeling of envy towards someone. Sometimes it’s a talent, sometimes it’s a feature, sometimes it’s wealth. If we learn to focus on the good thing that exists in the person that we admire rather than focus on what we lack without falling prey to the destructive forces of jealousy, a beautiful path awaits us. 

Who was the last person that you envied? Your undiscovered desires, potential talents are hidden there. 


Photo: Sophia Loren & Jayne Mansfield / Joe Shere, 1958

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