I read an article that claimed the 31st of January to be the most depressing day of the year. January 31 is supposedly when people, who started the year with a lot of new decisions and goals but later realized that none of them were sustainable, feel the depths of inability and lack of success. I don’t know if you’ve been there. But I do know this, people are really split into two groups before the New Year: those who make New Year’s resolutions and those who don’t.
Enthusiasm is felt for signing up to the gym, quitting smoking, starting a new course, or organizing our closets…in the beginning everything is great. Motivation is at its peak. Even thinking about the changes in three, six, or nine months fills us with excitement. This time we’re going to make it. But then what happens to those decisions? When do we ease the sails? We all have our own excuses. As life goes on we don’t really question those extinguished plans after a while.
If you’re one of those people who likes making plans for the new year but never realizes them, then resist the longing to reinvent yourself with list of three to five points. This year, try a different path. Choose to focus on a singular theme such as an emotion you miss having, a talent you lament not giving importance, or something you want to include in your life on a greater scale. Extrapolate, develop your theme and allow it to become the protagonist of the New Year; as long as it’s directly related to you and under your control. Choosing world peace or your children’s academic success as themes can leave you disappointed and unhappy quite quickly in the short run!
When we aim to make healthy choices as much as possible instead of ‘losing 15 kilos,’ then the numerical pressure from the bathroom scale’s results, the necessity to exercise with soldier-like discipline, and the fallacy of hoping to be satiated from constantly eating salads will all be eliminated. In this way we’ll be more inclined to gain sustainable habits rather than basking in utopic definitions of exercise and health.
Instead of aiming for ‘affinity and love,’ we should realize what these concepts, which are different for every person, truly mean to us so that we can better identify our expectations from others as well as how realistic these expectations really are. Perhaps, becoming aware of our emotional necessities will teach us how to satisfy them on our own instead of expecting them constantly from others.
Instead of aiming for ‘more money,’ if we intend to become aware of all that we possess when we feel most desolate, then we may realize often how wealthy we truly are. Deficits are only in our minds and only useful in comparing ourselves to others. If we gain clarity about what we need money for, it will also be easier to gain the courage to assess new opportunities and to turn our talents into monetary gains.
If you like this idea, then try it out. Have a less stressful year!
Wishing you a happy year and January 31…