It’s said that the mother of Nobel winning physicist Isaac Rabi asked him this particular question daily: “Izzy, did you ask a good question today?”
I begin my post with this fact not to enrich our general knowledge, but as a reminder for the art of asking questions. More specifically, I want to discuss the truth of being able to favorably deepen dialogue through asking the right questions. Undoubtedly one of the first steps for effective communication in our social and personal lives is to be a good listener. However, I’m convinced that the ability of asking the right questions also makes a significant difference.
Just as our curiosity about any subject propels us to research and master further information, so does the ability to reach a certain understanding in dialogue rely on questions. When we find ourselves making inferences or assumptions, let’s stop and, instead of continuing with our prejudgments, form a question. You can be sure that this will not only help us to understand the other person, but it will also help them understand themselves. As long as the questions don’t delve into an uncomfortable kind of interrogation, then it’s beneficial to remember its magical effects.
As creatures with a talent for verbal communication, we should truly enjoy this luxury. So, let’s ask ourselves, “Have we asked a good question today?”