Questions Minimize

Some answers can save lives. Others can cause utter disappointment. Whatever the result, we often give answers more importance than questions. The answer is essence we’re after and the matter we’re curious about. The question is just a simple tool…

Whereas not all questions require an answer. To expect all questions to have one answer is, furthermore, both unnecessary and unrealistic. Especially when these questions are about us and our lives, giving them (and the answers) the right to be fluid and changing is comparable to giving ourselves the right to live. We are not the person we were yesterday. We changed. And we have the right to be someone else tomorrow. Or do we?

Who is obstructing us? What is the largest foe that is blocking our paths? Time, money, others, ourselves? What do we learn from not reaching our aspirations? Which emotions capture our hearts? Worry, fear, feelings of insignificance, rage, shame, revolt…Maybe one, maybe none. Maybe one today and another tomorrow. Maybe we can name our emotions, maybe we cannot.

Asking a question without necessarily expecting an answer is good practice to imbue us with a bit more trust toward life. Asking a question, being aware of it, and then letting go of it, can be beneficial for all of us. Simply asking a question in the most distressing moments—when rage boils in our gut and makes its way up like hot lava, when fear makes our legs weak, when anxiety bores through our breathing like a dedicated termite—rather than searching for a perpetrator, a target, or an answer. Why do I feel like this? How did I find myself in this situation? Why this reaction?

Asking a question, becoming aware of our emotions, and letting go.

When we give our inner world a voice, rather than waiting for answers from the outside, we will no longer need a headmaster with a magic wand who we’re expecting to change everything. Instead of becoming hopeless while waiting for this city, these people, and this world to change, we’re going to change ourselves. A little more with every question. And in terms of answers…isn’t everything that eases and excite us, that makes us not only aware of our existence but that we live, an answer in itself?



Translated by Feride Yalav-Heckeroth

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