To Share / Not to Share

Some of us easily share our mistakes and weaknesses with others. In fact, we use our closest friends for these kinds of exchanges. There’s very little that a two-hour non-stop conversation with a friend, who knows us so well, can’t soothe. We talk and the other person agrees. Sometimes when the subject revolves around an enemy who has set us off, we immediately unite against them. Strength comes in numbers after all. And sometimes after receiving our close friend’s emolliating techniques, we leave that meeting feeling calmer and more self-assured.

But what about those who are very much aware of their mistakes and weaknesses but becomes distressed when these topics direct the conversation? Does this make us unhappier, less self-assured, and more alone? Do these particular personality traits, which we’ve already penalized ourselves for and therefore don’t want to discuss, become hidden within our efforts of maintaining our composure? Is sharing our mistakes and weaknesses always a tactic for finding a solution? Until what point should a person seek solutions within themselves, and when should they seek help?

Even though our closest friends and family have witnessed the various aspects of our personality, they are still people who are fond of us. They can detect our mood from just a look. Being understood is definitely a great luxury. Especially being understood without having to talk or explain. But sometimes, aren’t some of the most important conversations the ones we have with ourselves? Don’t those things, which other people have told us so many times and over so many years, only truly change us when we realize them on our own?

This post asks a lot of questions but doesn’t want to answer them. Perhaps because the author of this post doesn’t believe there’s one single answer that rings true for everyone.



Translated by Feride Yalav-Heckeroth

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